- You want to try new things; they don’t
A part of growth involves increasing knowledge of people places and things.
We all experience growth spurts at different times in our lives. It’s a sad day, but it’s also necessary part of life.
- Your ideas of ambition and need for change are met with negativity or discouragement
When you share your plans with them, you get responses like: Why would you do that? That’s stupid, That makes no sense.
Someone once said to me, “Hey girl, I haven’t seen you at the gym lately.” I replied “Yeah, I’ve been studying and haven’t had time.” They then commented “Studying? That’s just stupid!”
Well, I guess we’ve both chosen the most important muscles that we’d like to work out!
- You struggle with telling them your good news, because you fear they won’t be happy for you
Your friends should always be happy for you, they should always support you. Helping to celebrate a friend in their victories, big or small, is one of the most basic friendship requirements.
- They put you down or use sarcasm as an excuse to be rude to you.
They say things to chip away at your self esteem calling you fat, telling you that you look old. They make comments specifically aimed to hurt your feelings.
Bye Felicia! (I heard someone say that on a television show once. Don’t worry, the intended’s name doesn’t have to actually be Felecia to achieve it’s purpose. Trust me, They’ll get it!)
- They won’t return your calls
They said they’d call you right back… four days ago.
Stop checking your missed calls. They aren’t going to call you back!
These are all signs that you’ve outgrown your friendships and an indication that you must now seek friendships that fit where you are in life.
Think of it this way, you wouldn’t fit the same size clothing you wore as an infant, mostly because it would be way too small and you’d look ridiculous in it.
So, why are you trying to hold on to a friendship that you’ve outgrown. Chances are you’d stunt your growth making yourself smaller to try to fit in and because it’s no longer who you are, you’d look and feel ridiculous trying to do it.