Five Signs You’ve Outgrown Your Friends

 

  • You want to try new things; they don’t

              A part of growth involves increasing knowledge of people places and things.  

We all experience growth spurts at different times in our lives.  It’s a sad day, but it’s also necessary part of life.

  • Your ideas of ambition and need for change are met with negativity or discouragement

              When you share your plans with them, you get responses like: Why would you do that? That’s                    stupid, That makes no sense. 

Someone once said to me, “Hey girl, I haven’t seen you at the gym lately.” I replied “Yeah, I’ve been studying and haven’t had time.”  They then commented “Studying? That’s just stupid!”

Well, I guess we’ve both chosen the most important muscles that we’d like to work out!

  • You struggle with telling them your good news, because you fear they won’t be happy for you

             Your friends should always be happy for you, they should always support you. Helping to celebrate a friend in their victories, big or small, is one of the most basic friendship requirements.

  • They put you down or use sarcasm as an excuse to be rude to you.

             They say things to chip away at your self esteem calling you fat, telling you that you look old.  They make comments specifically aimed to hurt your feelings. 

Bye Felicia! (I heard someone say that on a television show once.  Don’t worry, the intended’s name doesn’t have to actually be Felecia to achieve it’s purpose.  Trust me, They’ll get it!)

  • They won’t return your calls

              They said they’d call you right back… four days ago.

Stop checking your missed calls.  They aren’t going to call you back!

These are all signs that you’ve outgrown your friendships and an indication that you must now seek friendships that fit where you are in life.

Think of it this way, you wouldn’t fit the same size clothing you wore as an infant, mostly because it would be way too small and you’d look ridiculous in it.  

So, why are you trying to hold on to a friendship that you’ve outgrown.  Chances are you’d stunt your growth making yourself smaller to try to fit in and because it’s no longer who you are, you’d look and feel ridiculous trying to do it.

6 thoughts on “Five Signs You’ve Outgrown Your Friends

  1. This is so true! I had a friend that I would call and she was always too busy to talk to me. It felt like she was avoiding me. Finally I had enough! I just walked away! BUH BYE!

    1. That’s absolutely right! I think it was TD Jakes who said, “I’ve got the gift of goodbye!” I love that statement. Feeling like your not loved or supported by your friends can be tough.

      But, in the end you have to ask yourself if the treatment you receive from them is worth the pain that it causes you. You are the only person responsible for protecting your feelings and your heart. So, if it’s time to move on, you simply must.

      Good Luck to you A. Smith!

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